It’s hard to believe that next month is already my son Greyson’s second birthday! In the midst of planning his party, I found myself reminiscing about those first few weeks after I brought him home. Sleepless nights; tireless feedings; moments of abounding joy— being a new mom of an infant can be overwhelming. Now that I’ve gone through it, I wanted to share some of the things I wish I knew sooner.Newborn eating habits can be somewhat erratic. My son cluster breastfeed some days and was fussy others and I kept thinking I was doing something wrong. After talking to other moms, I realized this experience was common.
Schedules take time to develop. With Grey, even after about five months, I found myself still frantically taking notes of his nap and feeding times, searching for a pattern. Nada. Even worse, I remember hearing my other mom friends touting how their newborn slept for six straight hours at six weeks. I realize now, they are not the norm!
Accept help. I was fortunate enough to have offers from friends and family willing to lend a hand. Most of the time though, I didn’t take them up on it. Big mistake. So many of us feel like we have to do it ALL ourselves but taking a little time for you is more than OK.
Not every baby likes to be worn. I swore the key to surviving that first month was wearing my son. I bought not one but three different kinds of carriers. He hated them all. Don’t assume because you want to be a baby-wearing mom your newborn does, too.
Get outdoors. I can’t tell you how great it felt to get outdoors even for a few minutes during the day. It helped my mood and was a refreshing break from my daily new-mom routine. Those of you expecting in the next few months should take a few moments every day to soak up the sun and nice weather!
Take photos of yourself with your baby. I have tons of delicious photos of him as an infant but hardly any of us together those first few weeks. Now I regret not capturing those moments, bags under my eyes and all. Don’t worry about being picture perfect; that is what filters are for!
I’d love to hear any lessons you learned during your first month of motherhood! And if it’s your first, I hope these tips come in handy!–Olivia