Our Motherhood® gets real on motherhood campaign allowed us to meet back up with Katie Graf, our Manager of Store Operations. The last time we did a photo shoot with Katie she was pregnant, it was her birthday, and we learned that her twin sister was also expecting! Needless to say, we wanted both Katie and her sister Kelly to sit down with us and discuss life as new moms, new aunts, getting back to work and navigating life with a new baby. Read on for the sisters’ advice and more.
Motherhood: Tell us a little about your new baby!
Kelly: My daughter’s name is Vivienne Lucille and she was born on October 12, 2017. It’s the only name my husband and I agreed on after reading every single baby book. We went with my husband’s grandmother’s name, which is Lucille. I wanted Daisy and no one liked it…
Katie: My daughter’s name is Margaret Reed and she was born on September 14. Her middle name comes from the first letter of my husband and my great-grandmothers’ and grandmothers’ names (Rosa, Elizabeth, Ellen, Dorothea). Both Kelly and I were in labor for 12 hours, but then we both had to have emergency C-sections!
Motherhood: How has life changed since becoming a new mom?
Katie: All things that were deemed important change. Priorities shift and you forget what it’s like before. Everyone says it, but it’s so true.
Kelly: I am more organized than I have been in my entire life, which is weird, because usually I am so scatterbrained and all over the place. I flew by the seat of my pants, but now I am routined and make sure everyone else around me is too, especially when it comes to my daughter.
(Editor’s Note: Katie agrees that she was disorganized. Kelly says that it’s because Katie is not only Type A, but Triple A.)
Motherhood: What has been your favorite nursing piece?
Kelly: Tanks and camis for maternity leave, because you can just whip one out and you’re good to go.
Motherhood: We last saw you on your birthday! And… it was your twin sister’s birthday too. Luckily we got both you ladies here, so tell us how being pregnant together was, and how being new moms and new aunts has been.
Katie: It was awesome, because we got to bounce things off each other. We told each other in a parking lot. I was like 10 weeks and Kelly was like, “I’m pregnant too.” She was brand new at 6 weeks. She only told me, because she was scared to tell anyone else! This has been a big change for our family, obviously. Our mom wanted to have just one baby for a while, because she never just had one kid to dote on! She was of course happy, but felt the memories of when she had us.
Kelly: That’s true. She was happy, but also overwhelmed! For me, work has been different too. I am the Director of Communications at University of Delaware. Of course, balancing work and motherhood is hard, but working on scheduling and making sure everything goes as planned is what I try to do to stay in control.
Motherhood: Now that the warmer months are coming up, do you have any family vacations planned?
Katie: In June we are going to Ocean City. It’s great being new moms together, because our daughters are like sisters now. They are starting to notice that the other one exists.
Kelly: I’m Margaret’s Godmother and want to be called GoMo. Just saying.
Motherhood: Let’s get real. What advice would you give to someone about those first 6 weeks after baby is born. It’s not all cuddles and kisses, right?
Kelly: The first 4 weeks are so hard. I read a lot of pregnancy books, but nothing about life after the baby comes. It’s a lot of learning. I read somewhere you should incorporate baby into your life and not change life for baby and I think it makes a lot of sense. We take her everywhere with us, because that’s how babies learn and grow and life can continue moving smoothly.
Katie: I am not into books really, because you can read or listen to anyone, but in the end, you have to listen to the baby and your gut. The baby tells you what she needs and you, in turn, know what to do from that.
Motherhood: If you could tell your sister one thing about how she’s doing as a new mom, what would it be?
Katie: She’s amazing. I am not great with words; Kelly is better at that. Honestly, she is so strong. Not that she doubts herself, but she is so strong and even more so as a mother.
Kelly: This may sound selfish, but watching her as a new mom she inspires me. She has had her $#!+ together since day one. Can I say that?